Here’s a talk that could literally change your life. Which career should I pursue? Should I break up — or get married?! Where should I live? Big decisions like these can be agonizingly difficult. But that’s because we think about them the wrong way, says philosopher Ruth Chang. She offers a powerful new framework for shaping who we truly are.
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"when we create reasons for ourselves to become this kind of person rather than that. we wholeheartedly become the people that we are" But what are the bases for creating reasons to become a banker rather than to become an artist, say? Don't I need to know myself, know my values? If there is a better or worse or equally good answer to this question about who I am or what my values are, then isn't it not a hard choice anymore? (And if this is a wrong question to ask since there is no "self" and we can create ourselves ex nihilo, then there is nothing wrong with being a drifter.) Perhaps what defines hard choices is not that the options are on a par, but that the yardstick to compare the options is unclear – the person does not know herself or her values (well enough).
Sadly, I feel Dr. Chang lacked compassion for her younger self. Choosing to become a lawyer reflected her value for security at the time, and it didn't mean she was a drifter. Her change in circumstances may have altered her perspective, but it doesn't invalidate her past choices, which were also made with autonomy. Perhaps her success as a philosopher made it harder for her to empathise with her younger, more vulnerable self.
It's important to remember that not everyone has the same privilege to follow their dreams.
I've always been a drifter all my life, no more.
I just want to say, that, as a millennial, the question "Do I donate my life savings to charity?" is maybe the least relatable question I've ever heard in my entire life.
1. Use your negetiv emotions to achieve your goals.
2. You must have control over your life.
3. Stop focus on big goals instead of progress.
4. Don't consume content instead start taking actions.
5. Think Big , achive big – You should set realistic goals
6. Take small steps to achieve Big goals.
Thanks bhaiya ❤
Im watching this right now weather i quit my 9 to 5 job or persue my passion as a full time artist. Im stock in analysis paralysis right now and what are the consequences if i quit. I dont have much time left since i need to give 1 month notice for my decision. But i know god is leading me into something good. I decided the hard way
In a very hard choice making scenario
Thanks for the lovely video
okay I got to to know a thing or two, but honestly, it is not something that I don't know. I learned it the hard what if I don't know what person I am to become and I have created opinions regarding both the alternatives?
Wow that was super unhelpful and a waste of time!
Fabulous talk, and fabulous comments section! Between the talk itself and the brilliant discussions in the comments – I'm feeling better equipped to make the decisions ahead, and less alone!! Thank you!