“Nobody gets out of love alive. We all suffer. We all have disappointments. It’s such a powerful brain system.”
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Why do we fall in love with one person over another? The late biological anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher unpacks the evolutionary roots of romantic love, sex, and attachment.
Using research derived from the ethnographies of hunter-gatherer societies and fMRI brain scans Fisher explains how love functions as a powerful survival mechanism.
00:00:00 A life shaped by love and curiosity
00:00:17 What was growing up like for you?
00:00:47 When did you first learn about sex?
00:03:30 What is the importance of sex in our lives?
00:06:13 How did your family life lead you to study the brain?
00:08:19 Is love supernatural?
00:09:23 Love is a drive, not a feeling
00:09:33 Why did humans evolve in a way other mammals did not?
00:17:18 How did you conduct your FMRI studies?
00:19:14 What did you find in your FMRI studies?
00:21:30 Did you think about the reviewer who called love “supernatural”?
00:21:54 Could you describe your next study?
00:24:15 How can this information be used?
00:26:12 How to make love last
00:28:25 How can we maintain a long-term relationship?
00:29:19 What is science doing to expand our understanding of love?
00:30:13 What work do you do with Match.com?
00:34:37 How is online dating affecting love?
00:37:22 What is “slow love”?
00:41:07 How are millennials approaching love?
00:43:31 Are men and women different?
00:53:59 Why are millennials different?
00:55:16 Does this change from city to city?
00:57:27 Does sex, love, and attachment always happen in that order?
01:05:04 What are the findings of your work?
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About Helen Fisher:
Helen E. Fisher, Ph.D. biological anthropologist, was a Senior Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University, and a Member of the Center For Human Evolutionary Studies in the Department of Anthropology at Rutgers University. She wrote six books on the evolution, biology, and psychology of human sexuality, monogamy, adultery and divorce, gender differences in the brain, the neural chemistry of romantic love and attachment, human biologically-based personality styles, why we fall in love with one person rather than another, hooking up, friends with benefits, living together and other current trends, and the future of relationships — what she called: slow love.
Taking love lessons from a 75 year old single woman that climbed into bed with a man just because he bs’d about taking a chance is not a good idea folks. This woman has no idea wtf she’s talking about. I don’t learn a thing. Did you?
I was raised by my M Grand she was separated from my GFthr by the time I was born as I grew up she talked to me about how her Older sister was inlove with a foreigner my GreatG said no we don't much about him, the man she married was family aquaintance she was influenced to marry him due to his military US bckgrnd financial stability. Then her youngest sister got preggos potentially in a latenight sneakout her boyfriend had to take responsibility and Marry. My Grdma said they separated 18yrs later due to him having a whole other fam on the side. And to finalize my Grandma since she was separated from my Grndfthr after 19yrs of marriage well when she would talk about how they meet got engainged and married she did not sound too inlove she later confessed that she married him due to being 24yrs and still living at home she said her mom pressured her by either becoming a RegSister nor Marriage she said she was secretally inlove with a male friend of hers that left town towards Univ….she said '(they where like peas in a pot, but the Lord differed")…When I heard all that I said F$^# I'll either stay single live life at my own terms and if my prince charming comes along for the ride well so be it….Im so glad I was a 90s baby…..😝
Today young people have overwhelming options and they can not handle it! Like kids in the candy store and can't decide what to pick! And try everything in the store until they lost it!
We should take a page from beaver mating habits! Because for the young beavers first time to strikeout on it own it is matter of life or dead! Its first task is to find a mate! It better find a mate before winter arrives! The first one they found! It's the ONE! Because they are really lucky to have found each other! There is no picking, no second guessing, no question if they made the right choice. It's life or death and they will settle in to build home and family to survive the winter!
To study love is to study God. Evolution is a false theory. We were designed to "love" and mate. Two different things ok crazy lady.
This is so crazy because i swear i have more brain Clarity with the current person i am with and my “Smart” is back. I am able to engage in hobbies and things i thought i wouldn’t be able to ever find connection in.
As an ace person, this is fascinating.
Tuff
I think she forgot to study man brain for definition of love.
Biology or fate? Neither. The answer is Culture.
Nobody gets out of love alive 💐